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Construction Zone

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Ok -- so now that I'm officially single again (*UGH*), I've got some serious work to do on myself before attempting to get back into the dating game. First off - just some nice mental/emotional time by myself (especially with the doctoral program starting soon). Second, I must lose some weight. So, my mind/body has become a construction zone - hope you brought your hard hat :)
28th Jun 2005, 20:48  

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daz says:

Go you! :)

(Sorry about the single thing, though. :/)

28th Jun 2005, 20:58

vallie says:

Ah - it's OK. Will be better for me in the long run, I'm sure...will definitely take some getting used to, though.

28th Jun 2005, 21:00

cometzero(arrowhen-at-yahoo-dot-com) says:

Your mind/body has become a construction zone?

So they're going to dig a hole in you, stand around for six months drinking coffee and staring at the hole, and then fill the hole back in?

Cool.

29th Jun 2005, 00:38

vallie says:

i wish it were that simple :P :) It'd be nice to just be able to jackhammer my hips away ;)

29th Jun 2005, 15:59

Lyzardly says:

I highly recommend the "you" time.

I have been single most of my short life. In fact, after 5 years of not having a date I decided to date myself.

Seriously. I identified the feisty, independant feminist part of me as "Liz" and the softer, more emotional, more private part of me as "Beth."

I would make "date" plans and tell people I wasn't available because I had a date with Beth. I would take myself out to dinner. Buy myself flowers. If I was sad and lonely, I would write it out in a journal and then try to write back as if it was a friend of mine who felt that way. Most often, I would recognize that I was sad and lonely because I had spent time with myself or been treating me the way I would treat the person I was dating.

It was odd trying to court myself and people thought I was a bit nutty. But in the end, I learned some very important things, 1) How I treat the people I love, and 2) How I want and deserve to be treated.

29th Jun 2005, 16:25

vallie says:

awwwwww...hopefully things have turned around for you and you're now dating other people...like.. *real* other people ;) I'm not sure I'll take things to such extremes (as i have neither the time nor the money to buy myself flowers), but i definitely need some quality time with myself. fortunately, i now know what i want and what i dont want :)

29th Jun 2005, 16:30

Lyzardly says:

I *loved* dating myself. I was also very short on money - damn tuition - and so the dinner and flowers were very rare and that much more self-indulgant, if that makes sense.

Things have changed a bit though. I met an amazing guy almost a year ago and things are going so well that my friends have asked me to pretend he and I fight sometimes because we are "abnormally happy together" ... whatever that means.

But I would go back to me if things ever soured. :)

29th Jun 2005, 16:45

cometzero(arrowhen-at-yahoo-dot-com) says:

" It'd be nice to just be able to jackhammer my hips away ;)"

pix pls.

29th Jun 2005, 20:32

vallie says:

ha! will provide after they've been downsized quite a bit :)

29th Jun 2005, 20:33

lizziepants says:

*hugs*

You did you very most and best, just keep remembering that.

29th Jun 2005, 21:28

Mel says:

*pops on the hard hat* :P

1st Jul 2005, 15:17

cometzero(arrowhen-at-yahoo-dot-com) says:

I tried dating myself but I ended up dumping myself because I was only interested in sex.

1st Jul 2005, 18:49

vallie says:

and yet you've still ended up screwing yourself in every way possible, cz ;)

1st Jul 2005, 18:53

cometzero(arrowhen-at-yahoo-dot-com) says:

Oh yeah!? Well at least my dog doesn't look like a fat fox!

:P

1st Jul 2005, 18:59

vallie says:

heheheheheheheee :) she gets that from me ;)

1st Jul 2005, 19:27

bruky says:

Stumbled upon your site while looking for something else. You are an attractive person - good luck in your endeavors. Relish your 'me' time. It can be very enlightening.

8th Jul 2005, 05:41

vallie says:

bruky - you've made my day (a week later when i've gotten back to check this :)). Feel free to stop back anytime!

(P.S. - Here's your $5...shhhh) :)

14th Jul 2005, 02:47